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13 August 2024 –The significance of paternal involvement in raising children has been increasingly highlighted in the media and research studies.

According to an article in The Straits Times, men possess a fundamental instinct for nurturing, a trait traditionally attributed primarily to mothers. This underscores the evolving understanding of the paternal role in families.

The July 2024 Family Trends Report released by MSF found that more fathers are involved in caring for their children and more employers and co-workers are offering flexibility to help working parents balance their childcare needs with their career aspirations. Take-up rates of Government-Paid Paternity Leave increased from 47% for children born in 2016 to 53% for children born in 2021. The number of employees who have access to flexible work arrangements has also increased from 65.9% in 2014 to 84.1% in 2022.

Fatherhood Involvement and Marriage Aspirations Survey

In support of the government’s stance to enhance work-life and promote the involvement of fathers by doubling government-paid paternity leave in 2024, Focus on the Family Singapore ran the Fatherhood Involvement and Marriage Aspirations Survey (Fatherhood Survey) with the aim of supporting and informing new and soon-to-be fathers in their parenting journey.

This retrospective survey, conducted with 443 participants between November 2023 and February 2024, found:

• Fathers were more involved in providing income (83.8%), discipline (57.3%), and being protective (48.6%) 
• Fathers were least involved in spiritual development (52.6%), school/homework (52.5%), and career development (47.7%)

Additionally, people desired for their father to be more involved in emotional development (73.6%), sharing activities/interests (66.7%), and intellectual development (65.5%). (Read the report here.)

To delve deeper beneath the findings of the Fatherhood Survey, and to discover what a modern-day involved father looks like, Focus Singapore conducted qualitative interviews with nine fathers over the period of May to August 2024. These fathers are aged from 37 to 61 and have between one to three children of varying ages.

Here are the key themes that emerged.

1. The need for time, both quantity and quality

When asked to reflect on their own parenting styles and practices, a few fathers voluntarily brought up their own fathers, and what they felt they did well or not so well. They also emphasised the importance of time with the family, both the qualitative and quantitative aspects. One interviewee said:

“I think a lot of [my parenting] is influenced by my dad…who was a present father. My father was one of those classic teachers back in the time when teaching was viewed as a noble profession. All through his life, he was a teacher, and turned down promotions to ensure that he could have time with the family. That had a tremendous impact on me.”

Another shared that he was intentional in giving his children what he himself did not receive:

“When I was growing up, I felt like I didn’t have that much time with my father. So, I try to spend as much quality time with the kids.”

There is also the added dimension of intentionality, even to the point of carving a dedicated physical space in the home, putting away devices, and having a good conversation.

“We intentionally made a cosy corner in our home, where we gather most of the time to chitchat. When we are there, we will stay away from our mobile devices. This is how we practice open communication. I believe it’s a two-way process…where if there’s anything [the children] want to find out, they will feel at ease and know that I’m there for them any time of the day.”

“To be emotionally present as a father, I must be emotionally present rather than be an absent father…It’s not about the quantity, like how many days I stay at home and look after them. But I believe in quality time where I can chat and joke with them. Sometimes my children will call me, ‘Hey bro.’”

Finally, there is a focus on doing simple everyday activities together:

“I’m also limited by my time at work. So, whenever there’s opportunity in the evenings or over weekends, I will check in with them as much as I can. It can be doing a puzzle together or going downstairs to play badminton or basketball together, so it’s just spending that time together with them now.”

2. The importance of caring for our own and our children’s emotions

The interviewees shared about their struggles in managing their own emotions as well as their children’s emotions. One shared vulnerably about the difficult job of managing their emotions when it comes to the children crying:

“But it’s the amount of mental, physical and emotional struggle…especially when kids are crying. I don’t know about you, but sometimes, I really want the crying to stop…we do whatever it takes to comfort them because we want the crying to stop. But we never help them to develop. 

Many times, to help them develop emotionally, we must bear it with them. We must bear with them crying. It’s tough but it’s the only thing we can do as parents. Your emotions are yours, and I cannot control them. Many times, when my son is crying, I tell him that I’m here for him and I’m here to bear the pain with him. And he will still cry. So I tell myself to just bear with the crying. And I think all of the time, he comes out okay because someone was there with him when he was crying.” 

Another added that knowing when to seek help, which in this case, was allowing his wife to step in to ease their daughters’ emotions:

“There are a lot of emotional things happening around the girls, right? When I explain my point of view and it doesn’t work (because we’re wired differently), after one or two attempts I will say, ‘Okay, never mind. You go to Mummy, and you talk to her’ Because I have tried it before, and things went very badly.”  

The point about caring for their own emotions as fathers so that they do not cause hurt to their children in the heat of the moment appears to be related to emotional connectedness between father and child:

“During the times when I got disciplined, I didn’t like it. But as I reflected, I realised how central it is as an expression of a parent’s love to the child. With that in mind, I do discipline the kids. I want to ensure that they don’t just do as they please. But I also have to constantly check myself to ensure that as I discipline them, it’s not out of anger. I think it’s a struggle because it is often intertwined with emotion. So, I try to separate as much as possible and not lash out at the kids when I want to discipline them.” 

For this father, emotional development involves also developing an awareness of other people’s needs, or building empathy:

“To me, I see emotional development and shared activities and intellectual development as related. It’s about doing things together – Some more for my interests, and some for theirs…But I think there’s another category which is just doing life together, right? Like we go supermarket together and we wash the car together. [When] you’re able to have time to do both of those, that’s where the emotional development happens; that’s where you can talk to them about the needy people that you walk past or seeing the needs of others.” 

3. The role of a father

While there seems to be an increased awareness of the emotional aspects of fathering, there is also an emphasis on maintaining authority as a father. As this participant said:

“Even though I’m scared that my kids ask me those tough questions about sex and other stuff, I have to answer right? If you give someone else the authority, then you give the world the authority. No, no, no, I’m the father. I take the authority.”

One father hinted at the role of fathers as providers of meaning, not just the traditional bread-and-butter issues:

“There is a sense of responsibility beyond just providing income, being protective, and disciplining. There is a deeper sense of providing meaning for [my] children.”

Another shed light on the spiritual development aspect of fatherhood:

“I feel strongly about spiritual development…even for myself, how can I do better? Spiritual development has many angles, right? It’s the teaching, the reading of scripture together…But the best spiritual development, as they say is caught, not taught. When they make a mistake, do I have the time to slow down and put aside the agenda? But to pause and seize a teaching moment.”

This teaching and guiding role is also emphasised in this father’s response. However, it comes with a sense of limits and gives the child some room to explore her own boundaries:

“I think advising our kids is something we know we should do. I always tell my girls that I might be wrong, so there is no one definite answer. For example, doing this thing will cause you this kind of consequences…But maybe in her time the consequence can be different, so she’ll need to go and explore certain things. But I think we should not overdo it, because if you overdo it, it will be like I enforced this based on what I think is right for her.” 

4. The importance of unity with one’s spouse

The interviewees were candid in expressing their appreciation of their spouse, and emphasised the sharing of parenting duties at home:

“I believe in co-parenting together with my wife. I don’t believe that one parent should be the disciplinary one and the other parent should be the nicer one. I think both partners need to nurture their kids in their own ways, probably in different forms but play that role of a nurturer and a disciplinarian.”

Another voiced gratitude for the inputs on each child provided by his wife during her stay-home years:

“When [my wife] was a stay-home mom, every evening she would give me a rundown of all the things that kids said and did. I really thank her for that as it has given me the necessary information to learn how to relate to each child better because as they get older, I get to talk to them more and they actually tell me what they want.”

Two fathers also pointed to the centrality of the marital relationship as the foundation of the home:

“I realise it’s not about the actions that I can do for my children, but it has to do with the relationship with your spouse. Because that sets the foundation for everything. If you don’t have a good relationship with the spouse, the house will be in turmoil, filled with arguments all the time. You can forget about whatever intentional thing you’re trying to do with the kids.” 

“And the way that I relate to my wife is also key. The father is not just a father to the children, but the father is also a husband to the wife. And the father is a part of the family unit that the children will model after. So, if I mess it up, then I set them at a disadvantage because their chances of succeeding will be impaired by my mistakes.”

5. The importance of work-life harmony and workplace support

Since time is critical when it comes to allowing fathers to play an active role in their children’s lives, it follows that work-life balance and harmony would be a key enabler for their success at home.

These two responses shed light on both the individual’s choice of how much work to take on, and the workplace support system:

“This is one of the best pieces of advice I’ve heard so far: Work will always take from you as much as you’re willing to give. But the one thing that you can control is the time that you give to your family.” 

“Many fathers will have the idea of being there to take care of their family and even their children. But I believe that workplace support is very important. Our government may have extended paternity leave, but it solely depends on workplace support.”

6. The importance of community

When asked about what was most helpful in their fatherhood journey, several of the participants pointed to the presence of a community and mentors.

“In terms of work, when people are in their 30s, it’s the time where they’re expected to progress towards middle management. Then there’s also pressures at home with aging parents and young children. So, amidst all these pressures, it is important to find time to take a step back and find friends to support you and be a sounding board too. It helps to relieve that loneliness and knowing that you are not alone in this journey.”

“I think what can help is a community of like-minded fathers who are also grounded in similar principles. Because as you start to share in a safe environment, one of the biggest things that goes out the window is you know you’re not alone. And when that happens, you no longer fight with any visible enemy of loneliness.” 

One participant shared about the helpfulness of mentoring:

“Actively look for mentors…I am fortunate enough now to be in ongoing mentoring relationships with fathers who have done a tremendous job in raising their daughters and sons, to [become] people who are leaders in their stage of life.”  

Conclusion

In trying to answer the questions, “How has fathering evolved through the years?” and “What does the picture of a modern-day involved father look like,” it seems that fathers today are more aware of the need to be involved and are ready to be hands-on in a multi-dimensional way, from engaging in daily conversations and check-ins, to learning how to deal with emotional outbursts and manage their own emotions.

Delia Ng, CEO of Focus on the Family Singapore, said, “Modern-day fathering has gone beyond the traditional bread-and-butter focus of fathers in the past. However, the challenges of time constraints, and ability to connect with their children amidst the pressures of life remain. As Prime Minister Lawrence Wong encourages Singapore to broaden our definition of success, our society can better support working fathers as they discover their unique expression of being a modern-day father. This includes prioritising the health of their marriage so that they can play a more active and sustainable role at home.”

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About Focus on the Family Singapore 
Focus on the Family Singapore Limited is a local Christian charity with Institution of a Public Character (IPC) status. Recognising the challenges and disruptions in our increasingly digitised world, we seek to bring families closer by encouraging and equipping youth and individuals from all backgrounds towards strong and resilient relationships, starting at home. Learn more at www.family.org.sg. 

Contact 
Natalie Yeo, Communications and Public Relations 
Natalie.Yeo@family.org.sg | 9747 8537 

Launches round–island trail with almost 80 volunteers walking 54km in 12 hours 

06 July 2024 – On 6 July 2024, FamChamps®, a community movement by local charity Focus on the Family Singapore, commemorated its 10th anniversary of empowering and equipping youths to believe in, live out and champion Family. 

Held at Paya Lebar Methodist Girls’ School (Secondary), 125 secondary school students were commissioned as Family Champions at FamChamps Awards – a platform that celebrates youths’ achievements in making a difference for Family in their own homes and communities. Joining the award ceremony was Mr Desmond Lee, Minister for National Development and Minister-in-Charge of Social Services Integration. 

In the past 8 months, participants underwent experiential learning and intentional mentoring, which included opportunities for them to practically apply the principles and handles learnt in the FamChamps Camp Experience journey to their family life, as well as share these concepts to equip their communities. 

One notable example is seen from the Family Service Project executed by the participants from Broadrick Secondary School. The team of 5 youth reached over 950 students within their school as they shared insights and tools picked up from FamChamps Camp at assembly talks. They also released a 3-part video series on marriage and parenting via the group’s social media account and rallied their schoolmates to join them in making a positive change in their families. 

Gia Linh Lee, 16, a member of the team and recipient of the Outstanding FamChamps Award, shares one of her takeaways from the FamChamps Camp Experience, “FamChamps taught me that even as a child in the family, I can make the first move to initiate stronger familial relationships. For example, I can start conversations with my parents and plan family outings to explore somewhere new in Singapore. I don’t need to wait for change to happen.” 

Having gone through the experiential FamChamps journey, she believes that youths can be the change they want to see in their families. 

“The next generation will be different,” she affirms. 

Ms Lee joins the over 800-strong FamChamps alumni community formed over 9 batches of youths that have been commissioned as family champions since 2014. 

As FamChamps commemorates its 10th anniversary this year, it also celebrates the maturing of youths who have grown with the cause. 

Elliot Goh, 23, a youth from the pioneer batch of FamChamps and a member of the inaugural FamChamps Council, received the FamChamps Milestone Award (Youth) for his unwavering commitment to promoting and protecting strong families. 

He shared, “After going through the FamChamps programme, I started to see my family in a different light.” 

“My family went through some challenges over the years, but these experiences inspired me to join the FamChamps Council to be a voice for Family,” he added. 

Through leadership development and community service opportunities, Mr Goh testified that he “witnessed firsthand the power of nurturing family relationships.” 

Just as the saying “it takes a village to raise a child” goes, it similarly requires a likeminded community of invested individuals to raise the next generation of family champions. 

Retired ex-principal Mr Peter Tan, 64, was recognised with the FamChamps Milestone Award (Enabler) for his successive years of support to FamChamps and his commitment to promote Family in his spheres of influence. 

When Mr Tan first heard about the FamChamps initiative, not only was he quick to onboard the school he was principal of, but he also shared the vision of FamChamps with other secondary school principals and rallied them to be part of the pioneer FamChamps Camp. 

“The idea of bringing together students from various backgrounds and empowering them to make a positive change in their families and schools resonated deeply with me,” he mused. 

“There is something inherently powerful about the collective narratives and camaraderie that these camps could cultivate. Furthermore, the students were encouraged to give back to the community and share what they had learnt with their peers.” 

Mr Tan believes that by empowering young people to realise their part in nurturing family bonds, FamChamps contributes to their holistic development as responsible individuals. 

At this 10-year milestone, the youth development initiative also celebrated the trailblazing spirit of FamChamps with the FamChamps Legacy Trail – a round-island relay that featured 10 Family Champion stories and spans 10 FamChamps schools. 

Comprising 3 legs where participating alumni and volunteers passed on the baton from one group to the next, the FamChamps Legacy Trail symbolises the collective strength and growing movement of people who champion the cause of Family through the years. 

The 54-kilometre overnight trail began at Zhenghua Secondary School, one of the schools that have been consistently involved in FamChamps programmes. Participants made pitstops at various institutions that have been part of the FamChamps journey, such as Fairfield Methodist School (Secondary) and Geylang Methodist School (Secondary). After 12 hours, the FamChamps Legacy Trail came to an end at Paya Lebar Methodist Girls’ School (Secondary), where the award ceremony was held. 

Through the Legacy Trail, the FamChamps Community aims to raise $50,000 through collective fundraising effort, where participants created their individual crowdfunding campaign on the Giving.sg platform to rally support and encouragement from their friends and family. 

“We believe that to transform generations, we need to meaningfully engage the emerging families – children and youth who will start to form families in the next 10 years and beyond,” shared Delia Ng, CEO of Focus on the Family Singapore. 

“By equipping them with practical skills in communication and conflict, and mentoring them through the struggles they face, we are ensuring the baton of Family gets passed on for generations to come,” she added. 

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About Focus on the Family Singapore  

Focus on the Family Singapore Limited is a local Christian charity with Institution of a Public Character (IPC) status. Recognising the challenges and disruptions in our increasingly digitised world, we seek to bring families closer by encouraging and equipping youth, married couples, parents and individuals from all backgrounds towards strong and resilient relationships, starting at home. Learn more at www.family.org.sg. 

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Contact 

Faith Wong, Comms & Integrated Media  

Faith.Wong@family.org.sg | 9648 2928 

07 June 2024 – Traditionally, the role of fathers has been perceived as resource provision, with the nurturing and emotional development roles largely left to mothers. However, a 2023 survey by Focus on the Family Singapore revealed that 74% of those surveyed wish for their dads to be more involved in emotional development.¹

Today’s millennial fathers are redefining this dynamic and their legacy, showing a fresh eagerness to actively participate in raising their children.

The impact of building strong familial bonds spans across generations. David Choo, 75, father of 4 sons and grandfather of 14 grandchildren, shared about a tradition his parents started, which he continues to practice with his own family till this day. 

“My parents used to gather the whole family for dinner every Sunday. I found it very meaningful as all the siblings would gather and my parents were very happy and pleased. Hence, even though my four sons have gotten married and have children of their own, everyone continues to come together for a meal every Tuesday evening.”  

This highlights how the concept of legacy weaves a thread through the fabric of time and speaks of the impact we can leave on those who come after us.  

Yet, the significance of leaving a legacy within the context of fatherhood is not merely about the practices left behind. 

“Legacy is about what your kids will remember you for,” said James Ong, 41, a father of four.  

“My hope is that when I pass on, my kids will want to emulate the love and nurturing they experienced from me,” he shared. He was especially touched when his eldest son expressed his desire to be a father when he grows up, seeing it as a testament to his positive influence. 

Despite their enthusiasm, many dads face significant challenges. Rising living costs, demanding work schedules, and the fast-paced nature of modern life often leave fathers exhausted, with little energy or mental capacity to engage meaningfully with their children. 

Jonathan Cho, 37, a father of three, shares his joys in parenting, the difficulties in balancing work and family life, and the emotional struggles that often come with being a working father.   

“We have a lot of dad guilt as well, and often times we think about where we have failed our children or where we could have done better in terms of being around.” 

This Father’s Day, Focus on the Family Singapore is Dad-icated to spotlighting the lasting legacies and importance of fathers, and empowering dads to create stronger bonds and lasting memories with their children. We hope fathers will be encouraged to know that their efforts to connect with their children have a profound impact that extends far beyond the present moment, leaving legacies that will benefit generations to come. 

A strong champion for families and longstanding supporter of Focus on the Family Singapore, Dr Stephen Riady, Executive Chairman and Chief Executive Officer of OUE Limited, recounts his father’s philosophy of giving back to the community where one has thrived and did well in.²  

As part of the campaign, the local charity has prepared a digital resource, The Busy Dad’s Playbook, to help fathers reduce the mental load of thinking of bonding activities with their children. These activities are arranged by time blocks of as short as 10 minutes to an hour, paired with fun facts and tips.  

A series of digital content featuring short-form videos, lighthearted comics, as well as authentic dad stories with emphasis on work-life balance and the legacies of fathers be available at www.family.org.sg/Dadicated from 7 to 17 June 2024.

“You just show up [for your kids]. And the moment you show up [as a father], something kicks in. It’s still tiring. I’m still often sleep deprived, but I’m happily tired, because I’m giving my life to the ones that I love, the ones that are dependent on me, and it brings me great joy,” Cho muses. 

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¹ Fatherhood and Marriage Aspirations Survey 2023, Focus on the Family Singapore
² https://www.straitstimes.com/business/how-to-succeed-in-life-business-ceo-shares-important-traits-leader-oue  

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About Focus on the Family Singapore 

Focus on the Family Singapore Limited is a local Christian charity with Institution of a Public Character (IPC) status. Recognising the challenges and disruptions in our increasingly digitised world, we seek to bring families closer by encouraging and equipping youth and individuals from all backgrounds towards strong and resilient relationships, starting at home. Learn more at www.family.org.sg. 

Contact 

Natalie Yeo, Communications and Public Relations 

Natalie.Yeo@family.org.sg | 9747 8537 

3 May, 2024 – Being a mother is one of the most unique journeys one can take, filled with experiences that are special and precious. 

There is nothing quite like the feeling of holding your newborn for the first time, the wonder of seeing the world through the eyes of your little explorer, or the delight that comes with witnessing the ways your child is growing. 

At the same time, it comes with inevitable challenges that stretch one’s capacity like never before. On top of the physical exhaustion that mothers often experience, doubt, feelings of inadequacy and discouragement are not unfamiliar to mums. 

Joey Ong, 30, a mother of three young children aged 5, 3 and 1, can certainly relate to experiencing difficult seasons in parenthood – especially when she became a mum for the first time. 

In the early days of motherhood, she used to impatiently seek the next milestone, looking for the momentary relief between sleep regressions and leaps, trying to avoid discomfort where possible. 

She shared, “While things did get better, it most certainly would get worse again.” 

Cycles of improvement and setback left her disappointed and defeated, turbulent and easily triggered by the smallest obstacles. 

But Joey is grateful for the pivotal role her mother has played in shaping her character and attitudes when faced with challenges. 

Witnessing how her mum single-handedly and sacrificially raised her with whatever that she had, Joey attests, “She has shown me what true strength looks like, and often reminded me that when bad things happen to us, we can choose how we want to respond.” 

“While weathering the many storms of parenting, the last thing we need is a spirit of discouragement and defeat. I am learning to trust and enjoy the process, even when things aren’t ‘better’ yet,” she mused. 

Believing that discomfort is a good teacher and an opportunity for growth, she added, “These storms will always pass. No matter how terrible things may look or feel, we have an opportunity to reset every day.” 

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For Mary Heng, 47, a mother of three teenagers, parenting a daughter with special needs adds another dimension to her understanding and journey of trusting the process. 

When her youngest child, Kayleen, was born and officially diagnosed with Down syndrome, her world came crashing down. 

“Guilt came over me as I wondered if I had done something wrong to cause this condition,” she recalled. 

Due to the condition Kayleen has, delayed developmental milestones were inevitable. Many aspects that are seemingly easy to achieve with neuro-typical children require a lot of time and attention in Kayleen’s case. 

Mary shared, “Kayleen has had severe feeding difficulties since she was young and still attends feeding therapy. During the times when she had to rely on the feeding tube to get nutrition, I almost gave up the hope that one day, she would be able to eat the same food as us during mealtimes.”

From persevering through 2-hour long breastfeeding sessions to help Kayleen strengthen her oral muscles for speech development, to spending hours with her at physiotherapy to improve her muscle tone and strength, Mary continues to devote time and effort into her 12-year-old’s growth and progress. 

And she has been able to savour the fruits of her enduring love.  

“Kayleen has shown the family that she is much more than what we ignorantly perceived her to be. With her smiles and coos, she unites our family, and her siblings adore her,” she mused. 

“When her speech improved, she often tells our family how much she loves us and that I’m the ‘best mummy in the whole world.’ During her hospital visits, I often find her talking to the elderly and encouraging them. When she sees a child in need of comfort, she willingly offers a hug and kind words.”

She reflected, “I trust that God makes all things beautiful in its time. Watching Kayleen enjoy the tamagoyaki that I prepared for her, as she shares about her day at school, is indeed a beautiful sight that I’ve been blessed with.” 

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These stories of mothers learning to trust the process in their unique journeys are part of this year’s Mother’s Day campaign by Focus on the Family Singapore, which aims to encourage mothers that all their efforts of sowing into their motherhood journey will bring growth “All in Good Time”. 

The charity has prepared resources for mums to discover the ways they can trust the process in motherhood, through uplifting and practical bite-sized digital content. Mothers will find comfort in reading stories of fellow mums who are on their journey of embracing all that motherhood has for them. These can be readily accessed at www.family.org.sg/AllinGoodTime. 

Family members and communities surrounding mums will also get to play a part in encouraging and affirming mums through the Timeless Bouquet—a digital affirmation card tool—and with a thoughtfully created Instagram story filter.

19 May, 2022 – Focus on the Family Singapore will commemorate its 20th anniversary with a special celebratory dinner themed “Bigger, Deeper and Stronger for Families” on Thursday, 19 May, at Hilton Orchard Singapore. 

Deputy Prime Minister & Coordinating Minister for Economic Policies, Mr Heng Swee Keat will grace the event as the Guest of Honour. He will be accompanied by his wife. 

Some 650 partners and supporters of Focus Singapore will be attending the event. The charity hopes to raise $1,000,000 in table sponsorships and pledges to fund its family-centric programmes and campaigns for the year. 

In 2021, Focus Singapore impacted the lives of some 40,000 people with its family-building programmes and campaigns. Looking ahead, the charity organisation aims to go bigger on sexuality education by partnering parents, educators and organisations, deeper in parent-child connections to build mental resilience, and stronger on marriage narratives, preparation programmes and mentoring communities.   

Bigger on sexuality education 

A 2020 survey conducted by Focus Singapore found that a staggering 79% of youths and young adults believe that parents have the primary responsibility to teach them about sex and sexuality. However, only 15% cite parents as their main source of information.  

Sexuality education needs to start at home as values about relationships and marriage have to come from parents themselves. With the growing awareness of the need for parental involvement in guiding youths in the area of sexuality, Focus Singapore plans to augment its current resources on its website with videos and conversation starters to equip parents with the skills to do so.  

Deeper parent-child connections   

Over the past two years, Focus has had to pivot its Family Life Education programmes and events from in-person to online format. To journey with parents in supporting their tweens through the transition to adolescence, Focus has redesigned its signature parent-child event, Date with Dad, into a parent-and-tween experiential programme titled The Select: Mission 1114.  

240 parents and tweens attended the inaugural run of The Select in December 2021, and tried their hand at solving puzzles and cracking codes together, while deepening their relationship through letter-writing and intentional conversations. 

Ms Yvonne Kong-Ho, who attended The Select with her son, said, “It was such a timely bonding experience for us as it was just after my son completed his PSLE and received his results. The most memorable part for me was when we wrote letters to each other. I also gave him a leather belt as a gift and told him, ‘This belt represents my support for you, and you’re never alone.’” 

Stronger marriages 

In a bid to strengthen its programme offerings aimed at nurturing stronger marriages, Focus Singapore will be organising a date night event in August 2022. Targeting younger married couples, Best Date Ever will offer couples a unique experience to reconnect and rediscover the joys or marriage, building their collective resilience to withstand the stressors of life. 

Mrs Joanna Koh-Hoe, CEO of Focus Singapore, said, “It is significant that we mark our twentieth anniversary in a year that Singapore has designated as the Year of Celebrating Families. We’re excited that with the easing of Covid-19 restrictions, 650 friends of the Family can now join us in this celebration!” 

“Today’s increasingly volatile and digitally immersed world unfortunately places new and more complex challenges on everyday families. Taking an upstream approach to build on the foundation of strong family values and healthy relationships will ensure our nation continues to thrive for many generations to come.” 

Partnership Dinner: Raising Family Champions 

Focus on the Family Singapore’s 20th Anniversary Celebration is held in appreciation of corporate and community partners that have supported the organisation’s work in helping families thrive. Through the celebratory dinner, the organisation also hopes to share the impact through stories of families equipped and restored over the past 20 years, and enable more stakeholders and partners to catch the vision of building stronger families and resilient children in the years to come.  

Chairman of Focus on the Family Singapore Mr Tony Soh said, “While championing upstream work with families hasn’t been without its challenges, we are thankful to count so many passionate believers of Family among our supporters today. With their partnership and encouragement, we will continue to build on the good work of the past 20 years, and forge ahead to realise our vision of thriving, vibrant and resilient families in Singapore.” 

At the fundraiser, Focus on the Family Singapore will also present its annual Family Champion Awards to commend corporations, communities and individuals who have been exemplary in promoting the interests of families.  

Six recipients will be recognised this year — Far East Organization, People’s Association, Mr Tan Chin Hwee, Dr Stephen Riady, Noel Gifts International Ltd, and Church of our Saviour. 

Focus on the Family Singapore hopes that this recognition will raise greater awareness of the need for family-friendly policies and a culture that celebrates and champions families in Singapore.   

Read our Stewardship Report for 2021 here.