Plan practically 

Practical plans can also help alleviate the uncertainty and stress.  
 
Mark shared, “We talked to a few other couples who either had fertility issues or were unsure about their family journey. Every couple has a different perspective and different expectations. We remember asking, ‘What do you want from the entire process?’ Especially if you are looking at IVF or TCM routes, then how long is enough before you decide on another route?” 
 
While these conversations may be hard, these practical talks will help you both navigate this journey as a couple. 

You can also discuss practical methods to handle unwanted questions from well-meaning friends or family members. Sue recalled that they had “stock replies,” and it helped to know that she and Mark were on the same page. They could laugh about some incidents, like being given fertility talismans from their aunties and uncles. 
 
Being able to laugh over these also helped strengthen their bond.  
 
Sue shared that coping strategies like drawing boundaries, knowing your limits, and understanding that it’s a stressful time helped them “give each other time and grace.” 

They also took holidays together to escape the demands and stresses of routine life. 

“Looking back now, we can remember very fondly some of the trips we had pre-children. I remember we took up scrapbooking too which was quite uncommon for the husband to get on board with, but Mark took it on. After our children came, we never scrapbooked again, so we treasure those scrapbooks we made in our early years… just find something you can do together, whether it’s sports or hobbies. It helps take your mind off things,” Sue said. 

“Process your journey one step at a time, instead of forecasting into the future so your mind doesn’t run amok.”