When she’s not hiding out at a café or having funny little conversations with her three children, June can be found editing articles or dreaming up podcast episodes for Focus on the Family Singapore.
Talking to kids about sex can indeed be a tricky and awkward topic.
I still recall the first time I spoke to my children about where babies come from. My face burnt red like a tomato and beads of sweat were forming on my forehead. So you’re not alone if you feel embarrassed and uncomfortable about broaching this subject.
Here are some tips to hopefully help make the conversation more comfortable and effective:
As far as we can, start discussing basic concepts of babies and body safety early on. This helps set the stage for more in-depth conversations later. Think small bites, and make use of daily opportunities to drop a seed of truth into your child (for example when you’re showering your child, or buying a swimsuit for him or her.)
We should also encourage our kids to ask us questions about anything. And if we don’t have the answer to those curious questions we can say, “Let’s find out together!”
Teach your child the correct names for body parts and functions. This helps us grow their understanding of their own bodies, and why they need to take extra care of private parts and who are the safe adults who can help them clean their bodies.
Look out for natural opportunities to discuss these topics, such as during a drive or while watching a movie together.
Ensure the environment is relaxed and private, making it easier for both of you to establish a safe connection and talk openly.
Look out for natural opportunities to discuss these topics, such as during a drive or while watching a movie together.
Ensure the environment is relaxed and private, making it easier for both of you to establish a safe connection and talk openly.
Pay attention to your child’s questions and concerns. We should aim to provide honest answers but also be age-appropriate.
For example, we should not be revealing too many details about how people may abuse others for their own sexual gratification to a 5-year-old. This would rob them of their innocence and create unnecessary fears.
Remember to talk about values, consent, respect, and healthy relationships. These topics are as important to holistic sexuality education as puberty and sex.
Encourage your child to share their thoughts and questions about these topics.
Understand that these conversations may feel uncomfortable at first, but they will become easier with practice. Reassure your child that it’s normal to have questions and that they can always come to you.
Conclusion
Keep the conversation going. Regular check-ins can help your child feel supported as they navigate the growing up years, with puberty and relationships coming to the fore.
Remember, your goal is to provide accurate information and support your child as they grow. By approaching the topic with openness and sensitivity, you can help them feel more at ease coming to you whenever they have questions.
When she’s not hiding out at a café or having funny little conversations with her three children, June can be found editing articles or dreaming up podcast episodes for Focus on the Family Singapore.
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