Published on 27 November, 2025
When she’s not hiding out at a café or having funny little conversations with her three children, June can be found editing articles or dreaming up podcast episodes for Focus on the Family Singapore.
When Sarah and Daniel* finally sat down in their first marriage counselling session, the silence between them was louder than words. They weren’t fighting anymore—not because things had improved, but because they’d both stopped trying. The spark had fizzled, replaced by a quiet detachment.
Sarah felt like she was doing everything alone. Daniel felt like he couldn’t do anything right. They weren’t sure what they needed, but Sarah thought she wanted out.
Their story isn’t unique. Many couples wait until they’re at their wits’ end before seeking help. But marriage counselling isn’t just for couples on the brink of divorce. While it can be a lifeline, it probably should be a regular check-up on your marital health, a safe space to reconnect and talk about sensitive issues, and a way to strengthen and future-proof your marriage.
Here are some signs it might be time to talk to someone:
It starts with a sock on the floor and ends with someone sleeping on the couch. If you find yourselves rehashing the same fights with no resolution, it might be time to bring in a neutral party.
If your conversations revolve solely around groceries, bills, and who’s picking the kids up from tuition, it could be a sign that you have lost emotional connection to each other.
Whether it’s a new baby, a job loss, or moving in with the in-laws, big transitions can shake even the firmest foundations.
Infidelity, secrecy, or even just a growing emotional distance can erode trust. Rebuilding it takes time—and often, a professional counsellor can offer support and guidance in navigating the hurt, anger and unforgiveness.
If the idea of separation has crossed your mind more than once, it’s worth exploring those feelings in a safe, guided environment.
Let’s first debunk a common myth about counselling. Counselling isn’t about sitting in a room while a stranger tells you who’s right and who’s wrong, or what to do next. It’s more like having a coach who can help you both play on the same team again.
Here’s what you can expect:
In a culture that often prizes privacy and self-reliance, seeking counselling can feel like admitting defeat. But it’s actually the opposite. It’s saying, “Our marriage matters enough to fight for.”
Sarah and Daniel? They’re still figuring things out. But now, they’re doing it together—with more grace, more understanding, and yes, even a few laughs along the way.
So if you’re wondering whether it’s time to seek help, consider this your gentle nudge. You don’t have to wait for a crisis. Sometimes, the bravest thing you can do for your marriage is to ask for help before things fall apart.
If you’re facing challenges in your marriage, and would like to seek help and support, we’re here to walk with you. Book a session today and begin your journey towards positive and lasting relationship change.
When she’s not hiding out at a café or having funny little conversations with her three children, June can be found editing articles or dreaming up podcast episodes for Focus on the Family Singapore.
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Nelson and Gina
Nelson and Gina Lee have been accredited facilitators with Focus on the Family Singapore for over a decade, beginning their involvement conducting relationship talks for tertiary students since 2011.
Driven by a passion for nurturing strong relationships, they have extensive experience in facilitating dating workshops for courting couples and pre-marital programmes for those considering marriage. They have also have led marriage retreats designed to deepen connection and commitment among married couples.
