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Managing stress and expectations
By Chan Swee Fen | 2 September 2021
Every major exam – PSLE, GCE O-levels, N-levels, A-levels – are significant milestones in your child’s academic journey. While excelling in these exams is every student’s goal and every parent’s hope, it is important for us to look beyond grades and view the exams preparation and outcome as pivotal moments for your child to learn life skills and build resilience.
Here are practical strategies, tips, and tools to empower your child during the exam period:
"Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime."
I remember teaching my daughter how to cope with the “butterflies in her stomach” through positive self-talk before entering the exam venue.
There is nothing wrong in setting high expectations. However, when these expectations are motivated by unhealthy beliefs and alienates you from your child, it is needful to take a step back.
Major exams are highly stressful experiences for our children. Our active involvement and support during this crucial time is important. We should recognise that excelling in major exams is a laudable goal, but grades alone do not define their identity and future. Focusing on the effort that they have put in and the life skills they’ve learned will help our children learn self-compassion and hold on to hope.
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